“Youth has no age.” Pablo Picasso
A friend of mine who recently turned 65 did not want to
celebrate her birthday but we all talked her into it. While “Helen” did not want to have a party to
celebrate “old age,” her friends saw this an an opportunity to acknowledge her
significant achievement. Helen told us that all she wanted to do on her birthday was stay home in her
pajamas and order a meat lover’s pizza.
She did not want any attention and she was in no mood for partying. We deferred. And then she changed her mind!
Celebrating a landmark or milestone birthday or anniversary
is an opportunity to impose order on the passage of time, make some sense of
the passage of time, and celebrate both the past and the future (Stephens &
Williams, 2017). Society determines what is and is not a milestone or landmark
occasion. For example, in America, it is
common to celebrate birthdays at age 16, 21, 40, 50, 65, 80, and 100. Milestone anniversaries are typically
celebrated for 10, 25, 40, and 50 years of marriage.
Milestone birthdays can also be opportunities to engage in an
unusual activity such as skydiving or take up a new hobby or sport. I read about Ginny Reed, who recently turned
70 and began her “health adventures” with hiking and running (Corrigan,
2018). I read about Lawrence, a CPA who
turned 50 and took up a new passion, foot-launched paramotoring (Corrigan,
2018).
Milestone birthdays also provide us with social bonding, status,
and prestige with lots of positive emotion from family and friends as they come
together to collectively acknowledge an important achievement. It is also a time of reminiscing and
reflecting but not everyone embraces that task.
Although I adore milestone birthdays for others and myself, it is
important to respect the wishes of the others and not force a party, as doing
so can trigger negative emotions and feelings.
Corrigan, P. (April 23, 2018). Confronting a milestone
birthday? What 10 people did, or plan to do, when turning 50, 60, 70, 80, and
90. Retrieved from NextAvenue https://www.nextavenue.org/confronting-milestone-birthday/
Stephens, S., & Williams, L.A. (May 17, 2017). Why
milestones matter: How birthdays and anniversaries shape our lives. Retrieved from ABC News http://www.abc.net.au/news/2017-05-18/milestones-how-birthdays-and-anniversaries-shape-our-lives/8533906
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